I wrote up this whole post about self esteem and deleted it. I sounded really preachy. I just wanted to say this, because I’ve had four separate groups of friends discuss this with me lately, how horrible they feel about having gained weight, or put on weight that they didn’t have before. So in case you are one of the people who have been talking to me about this, please don’t feel weird – I just have to say it to all of you.
Love yourself. Remember when you were a little kid and they gave you that self esteem talk? The one about no matter what other people say, you’re special and unique and beautiful, like each delicate snowflake that falls? Give it to yourself today. When you feel the pressure to be perfect – which is a given in our society – remember how uniquely beautiful you are, already.
Guilt and shame are no way to live, especially about something as integral to our beings as our bodies. Instead, pride and confidence should be our answer, and the feeling that we are special and sexy and wonderful. Being “perfect” won’t make anyone happy – it’ll just lay on a whole new set of rules and regulations and things to feel badly about.
Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are. Even if you don’t feel it – fake it till you make it, if you have to. Nurture that little part of yourself that remembers the delicate snowflake. Don’t abuse your body with crash diets and years in the gym. Enjoy it in every way you can (one of my favorite things in the world? the feeling after I finish a long walk… and I’m no big exerciser). Feed it in every way you can – from beautiful fresh wholesome food to excellent wine to pampered spa days to lots and lots of sleep… And love yourself. You’re the only “self” you’ll ever get.